Love is all you need

While speaking with a yoga teacher and friend several weeks ago, I said, “Love is all you need.” She replied, “No, you need more than love”, in the context of relationships. I insisted, “Love is all you need.” I believe Love is all we need, when it comes to relationships. But what in the world does not involve relationships?

Work is about relationships. Everything we do in the world has to do with relationships, including relationships with ourselves. Even business is primarily about relationships, not money although we often love money more than people, creating all kinds of evil. If the love of money is the root of all evil, perhaps the love of people is the source of all good in our world?

No we do not need more than love. Love is not a feeling although it produces affection. Love is not an emotion although it creates emotions, including of course, anger, when necessary. Love may seem weak and insufficient but nothing could be farther from the truth.

Love is a spirit, the very nature of The Holy Spirit. Love motivates one to work only for the good, not the ill of another, at any cost. Love is the greatest motivator known to man and it transcends death. Love causes people to count not their lives worth preserving, in the pursuit of an objective.

Love is the highest form of intelligence. When we love ourselves and others, we are being the wisest we can be. When we forgive wrongs, we are not just being morally correct, we are acting from the highest form of intelligence and omnipotence. One reason Love forgives unreservedly is that Love is infinitely creative. Love transforms hurts into blessings, making bitterness and unforgiveness unnecessary.

Love moved Jesus Christ to lay down His life with no guarantees humanly speaking, of returns on investment. In the process of being crucified, He readily forgave His crucifiers. Love used the brokenness Jesus suffered, to heal our brokenness. That is the nature of Love. When we “unforgive” others and are bitter towards those who hurt us, we are being ignorant of the omnipotence of Love and the opportunity occasioned by offense.

I believe Love is what was meant when the Persian poet Rumi said, “Out beyond ideas of rightdoing and wrongdoing, there is a field, I will meet you there.” I believe Love is that field.

Love is The Source of all spirit and matter. Love is the source of the universe in which we dwell. Love is infinitely creative. Love is the source of all great and enduring acts.

Love does not need you to be beautiful, it beautifies. Love does not need you to be wealthy, it enriches. Love does not need you to be healthy, it heals. Love does not need you to be clean, it cleanses. When Love is applied to the ugly and the messy, it transforms them. When Love enters formlessness and chaos, order ensues.

All we need is Love. All that is missing in our world is Love. Love does not flee from brokenness, love heals brokenness. The one thing required to transform individuals, organizations, societies and nations, is Love. When a person motivated by Love enters a situation, true transformation ensues and decadence is reversed on an individual and a societal level.

Jesus is my primary example when it comes to Love. Scripture curiously precedes his miracles with, “He was moved with compassion.” Love raised Lazarus from death. Love brought together the creative energy that produced thousands of loaves and fishes without the need for the contraptions we call infrastructures and resources. Love produced pure wine at a wedding. Love healed multitudes without the need for hospitals.

True compassion among healthcare providers will go much farther than decades of medical knowledge and investment in healthcare facilities.

Love is all we need.

Lust and greed which are offspring of Fear, Love’s opposite, are what we must be rid of. Lust thrives on existing beauty and when lust is done, ugliness is left behind. Lust naturally consumes and cannot create. Greed, upon which our economic system is based, thrives on existing value. When greed ravages a place, it leaves behind waste and devastation where there was once value. Like lust, greed naturally consumes and cannot create.

Greed maximizes value while love creates and multiplies value. Greed is impotent when there is apparent nothingness, but that is when Love comes alive because Love creates. Love meets you broken, impoverished and tattered and leaves you whole, abundant and beautiful. When Love invades a place, it leaves behind beauty and wholeness. Love embraces brokenness and ugliness because it gets to bring out beauty. This is why I call Love the All-purpose Cleaner.

With Love, nothing is hopeless. With Love, all things are possible, at any level.

Love, is all you need.

The opportunity of offense

You do not need to forgive your offender for them to receive forgiveness. You only get the opportunity to become a channel of forgiveness which is Love’s healing power towards them. The beauty of being that channel is that you become a partaker of the very grace you are chanelling. If you refuse to become a channel of forgiveness when needed, you become cut off from forgiveness while they can access grace and mercy directly, without you.

You are not the forgiver, God is. By refusing your offender the grace God wants to bestow freely on them, you are working at cross purposes with Love and although you were wronged, you become cut off from grace and mercy. Although they wronged you, they can still receive grace and mercy while you end up in disgrace.

We often assume that the offender has it easy. No human born of a woman is able to be at peace when they hurt others because it goes against our very nature which is Love. The torture they suffer is much worse than that which they inflict.

It is traumatic to be on the receiving end of pain but it is more traumatic to be the one inflicting the pain or the one offending the innocent. Why else would Judas hang himself? Why else would Peter weep (not softly but) bitterly after coming to the realization of his betrayal of Jesus?

Wanting to crucify your offender is an indication you need more understanding. Your offender is already being eaten alive from within and the intelligent response to their offense is compassion. For anyone to inflict pain they must be in pain. Please don’t multiply pain on earth by nursing resentment. Instead, channel healing by forgiving them, even if they shut themselves up.

Jesus’ act of forgiveness on the cross is not a mere moral act. There is deep intelligence behind it. Forgiveness is more therapeutic for the offended than for the offender. Forgiveness heals the forgiver even if the offender refuses to acknowledge wrongdoing.

Your offender does not need to be open to forgiveness for you to forgive them. Their only qualification for forgiveness is their offense. When you forgive them, you are forgiven, healed, cleansed of your own wrongs and wounds. Offenses therefore become opportunities for your own healing not just from the effect of the offense at hand but from the effect of every wound in your life.

Forgiveness is a glorious opportunity occasioned by offense. Rather than nurse resentment and plot revenge when offended, which you could be self-justified in doing, celebrate when you become offended because you have just been given an opportunity for healing to flow to and through you.