God created us to be free to love and submit to Him. Being free to do anything automatically implies freedom to do the opposite. Adam’s fall is proof that He was free to love and obey God. The desire for freedom is built into our DNA.
In every relationship, we want to be free to love and be loved but inherent in freedom to love is freedom to disregard, even to hate, otherwise there is no freedom. If our loved ones have no freedom to be uncommitted to us, they are not free to be committed. If employees or members do not have freedom to leave whenever they choose, they are not free to stay and that means they are not free. Our world functions by imprisoning people through legal instruments, which indicates that we have deviated from our default state of trust and are in a tilted room.
We imprison people by demanding love, commitment and respect, not giving them the option to do the alternative. True freedom encompasses the freedom to be contrary otherwise we are not free. Human beings perform better, relate better, are more committed when they are free to do evil. Love is not love unless it is a choice. You cannot claim to love God if you never had an alternative. Why else would God show Adam and Eve the bad tree? No one can claim they are not a thief unless they have been in a position to steal and chose not to. Your spouse is not faithful to you unless he or she is free to be unfaithful. Jesus qualified to be spotless lamb because He had the option to sin.
Freedom is risky, but when dealing with human beings, freedom is the only way to get the best out of them. Your spouse, your children, your staff, your clients, your members and partners will not achieve their fullest potential if they have no freedom to be the worst they can be.
When you restrict people, you imprison yourself and often the person still chooses what you are guarding against. When you give freedom, you free yourself even when the other party chooses the worst.